Contact me on the email address below. My DMs are open on Twitter too.

I never accept guest posts on The Guyliner, so please don’t ask, as I won’t be able to reply.

I’m afraid I had to remove my contact form as the spam was out of control. My literary agent is Becky Thomas at Johnson & Alcock.

Got a dilemma?

One of the things I do is try to help readers with their life/dating/relationship dilemmas.

If you have a dilemma you would like my help with, please email me: Just a reminder for anyone not listening above: I don’t accept guest posts, please don’t ask.

It doesn’t really matter what kind of problem it is. Maybe your other half is a shocking kisser, or perhaps your parents are struggling to deal with you coming out. Whatever’s worrying you, write in for my ‘unique take’ (that’s what they all say) on your woes. I’ve been around a bit; I might be able to help.

I take this quite seriously, you know; I’m not just going to laugh at your problem and then write a reply that makes me look funny but makes you feel stupid.

Take a look at previous dilemmas from my column on Gay Times to give you an idea. , but I’ll answer dilemmas from anyone, whatever your orientation or taste in shoes.

If you’re LGBT and need emergency advice and can’t wait for a reply, or don’t want to be in a mag/column, get in touch with Switchboard – they’re awesome.

Some disclaimer type stuff: I can’t answer every contact individually – though sometimes I might – and your dilemma may be edited for space. I’m the only person who will see your email, unless I need to ask a third party for some additional help or advice, but I won’t share your details. I’ll make up a random first name for you and no other details will be published, unless you refer to them in your dilemma and they’re relevant to it (ages, that kind of thing). In short: this is not going to be a hatchet job.

Got a question about what I do and why I do it?

Want to know more about me?

The blog was anonymous for a variety of reasons – mainly because I’m extra af – but I’ll happily answer any queries. Just email me on theguyliner[at]gmail[dot]com. My real name is Justin – don’t wear it out. Also, for the last time, no, I do not accept guest posts.

If you’d rather your email didn’t appear in anything I write on this blog or any other publication I work for, please specify ‘NOT FOR PUBLICATION’. Otherwise, I may use it in some way (not in a horrible way).


  1. Why wear white after labour day…? I think it’s from the ‘old days’ when people would put away their summer clothing (a lot of it being white) and have it dry cleaned for the next year.
    Or, it could be some prissy etiquitte WASP who made it up amongst his/her friends so the plebes could feel inferior to them due to their higher social status.

  2. I thought I would let you know that I have just spent my entire Friday at work reading through your posts.

    Clever, witty and fun, you’ve helped me to avoid a pile of work I probably should have gotten through.

    I’ve also realised that I’m not the only one that has particular tactics for a date (seeing your date at the other end of the bar but choosing to wait until they come over to you, for example).

    Thanks for the interesting read, I look forward to more.

  3. I have no idea how I managed to stumble onto this blog but I’m so glad I did – absolutely brilliant, funny, self-deprecating and admittedly somewhat depressing as I haven’t really been back in the dating scene much myself after a long term relationship and now after reading about your adventures in dating I’m thinking yikes, maybe the single life isn’t that bad after all!
    Anyway, as much as I love reading about your varying dating experiences and would hate to see it end, ultimately I do hope you find what you’re looking for and if you do, promise to write at least a little blurb about it alright?

  4. Hi there, I´ve really enjoyed your writing, It makes me simultaneously hopeful but at the same time fearful, there seems to be so many restrictions these days on who to date and why, many reasons not to consider someone in favour of rejecting them for some frivolous fault, yes health and hygiene are important, as of course is physical attraction, if for nothing other than basic chemistry, but It makes me lament the loss of what used to draw people together, have the old laws of love and attraction been replaced, or merely updated with contemporary standards of classification, rules for rejection, what does the type of shoes or underwear we wear have to do with who we are as people? what matters is what we feel, all these shallow things have nothing to do with finding a soul mate, not really, our styles and interests unite us, but do not tie us together, I guess I believe in the magic two people can share, thats what truly matters, that we don´t lose hope,
    and like I say, your writing keeps me hopeful, and I value your insight, thank you

  5. hey guyliner!

    i am a single gay dude in nyc looking for love. i got tired of grindr and okcupid and decided to write a blog that would help me find my future boyfriend. it started when a friend asked me to draw a picture of my “ideal guy” and right now it’s something like an FBI wanted ad and an oprah love experiment.

    i’d love for you to check it out and share it on your blog if you think it’s a good fit. write me if you have any questions — the only way for this to work is if i share it with as many people as possible!

    thank you,

    danny coeyman

  6. Jeezzz…. You are the Christian Grey for the other side……. whoever is lucky enough to capture your heart will be the lucky one …. love yourself as you are adorable! xxx
    BTW I’m intrigued by ur mind, not your sexuality! xxx

  7. Hello Guyliner! I stumbled on your blog a couple of days ago, and I haven’t been able to stop reading your blog posts all weekend. Your writing is brilliant, fun, funny and witty. I could totally pull an all-nighter and keep reading, but I really need to wake up for work tomorrow.

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